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life is too short

I just think that life is too short to start worrying about what other people think. To each their own as they say. The old adage that many of us were taught by our parents was that it is not what's on the outside that matters but what is on the inside. It's my opinion that we are all individuals that god created to not be exactly the same. When you arrive at your final days of life, will it be your clothing that matters and will be remembered, or what type of person you were.
—Guest fibiray

Just lost 60 lbs

I'm 56 and have lost 60 lbs last year. was so tired of trying to cover up everything because of my fat! Now, I'm a size 8 and am considered attractive for my age. I keep my blonde hair long and straight, had my teeth fixed and feel & look better than I have in 15 years. I like to wear tighter clothes, show a little clevage now and then but keep it in good taste. I do see men actually taking a second look which hasn't happend in those 15 years. I LIKE IT. Now I love clothes, love stylish fashion that's in good taste and enjoy life. I say wear what you want because life is too short. Enjoy yourself girls.
—Guest suzie @ 56ys old

i love being a sexy grandma!

For me it is not a question of people taking a hike and leave me alone to wear what I want. People will have their opinions aoiind morals. I am a woman to years old, a wife, mother and grandmother. I still have a good body and told I have "great legs". I have always been tasteful sexy, wearing rather short, tight skirts and the like. I always enjoyed the glances. Now that my kids are all grown, I have devoted time for me. I love to exercise and be active. And I love to show my results. Although I no longer have the legs of a 25 y.o. I still get compliments and looks as I wear my mini skirts at upper mid thigh. and with this I love to wear tops that show my cleavage. I do get comments both positive and negative, but I take them in stride. My husband loves seeing me like this! Also I love to war bikinis. This august Iwe went on vacation with our children and their families. I was debating on what kind of a bathing suit to wear and then in trying on swimsuits I decided to purchase a few bikinis from a tiny string one to a mote conventional one. The string was to be for my husband's eyes only, nut he encouraged me to war it publicly. I did and what reactions! My daughter was a bit taken back since it was a tiny string bikini and frankly it did expose my body, my breasts and my backside. But I was comfortable. My husband was clearly turned on watching me and seeing other bathers, especially young guys, getting turned on. Some may say I am foolish, but I still look good and her good about myself. This is why women should be brave and not be afraid. It is not about others but about me!
—Guest elaine

Oh Please!

This is the first time I have ever read anything like this, and the last. I won't waste my time with such nonsense again. Don't you people have anything better to do with your lives than to judge other people? Look down your own nose! Granted, there are a few, very few, legitimate posts, but for most of you - Get a Life!
—ogrelor

Wear whatever

What older ladies wear is their business, if they're happy and feel good that's good for me. I'm 57 and love my jeans to bits, 6 inch killer heels complete the look
—Guest Polly

Women's Mistakes in Fashion Makeup

Clothers: Avoid the "muffin top" around the waist. If your shirt is out, cover a higher-rise denim jean & look slimmer with a belt holding it in. Avoid the opposite: Baggy, shapeless clothes. Even women carrying a few extra pounds have curves & should show the right ones off. Look to Oprah's wardrobe for inspiration. Even more mistakes occur in makeup than fashion, I feel. Avoid the "raccoon look" of heavy black eye liner if you are fair to medium complected. Those dark, smokey eye looks on women with dark eyes paired to narrow-set or small eyes look harsh & beady eyed. Fair skinned women with deep-set eyes should go lighter & softer on eye makeup. Next no-no: Removing one's eyebrows & penciling them in. Don't take too much brow off & don't go heavy on a brow pencil. Lips: Do NOT wear dark lip liner! Use a neutral, nude or a shade lighter to avoid harsh outlines. To fair-skin women with yellowing teeth: Avoid pale colors & sheer gloss. Aim for better color contrast with lipstick
—NewsView

Age Appropriate

I am 52 yrs. old and I believe there are way to many people sticking their noses (or mouths) into other people's business. Wear what you like to wear and if other people don't like it then they should either turn their nosy little heads in the other direction or keep their unwanted opinions to themselves. Wear whatever makes YOU feel good and if all the nosy, gossipy people don't like it, well... then maybe you are doing them a favor by giving them something to do in their obviously boring life. Feel good about yourself, be HAPPY and don't give a thought about what the NO-LIFE'S think. Life is to short...try to LOVE every minute of it!
—Guest Tina

compliments not always compliments..

Have you ever complimented someone when you didn't know what else to say? Don't rely on compliments to tell you your look is good. People will and do lie to you. Has anyone ever said "you really don't need to be wearing that" or "please do something about that awful gray stringy hair." Of course not! Get a clue and listen to what you are reading here about what not to do. You'll look better! When you are older it takes more work to look good, but it can be done. Just wear age-appropriate (and I don't mean dowdy!) and properly fitting clothes. And for heaven's sake get your hair professionally done after age 40. Your home dye job looks it, and if you have gray it DOES make you look old!
—Guest suzyq

Strapless

Most women should not wear anything strapless if they spill over or have flabby upper arms. Very few women can wear strapless well. It may be in style, but it's not appropriate or attractive for most women over 50.
—maurers

tight teenager jeans

Living in NYC, I see a lot of women wearing the same jeans as their teenage granddaughters. Simply put, after your 30's, it is not appropriate to wear jeans that are either too tight, bedazzled, fringed, ripped or bleach-patterned. Leave them to the kids, ladies.
—Guest fc

Mirrors don't lie!

As a retired stylist, I’m annoyed by women who don’t adjust their beauty regimen as they age, like giving up that gorgeous intense shade of BLACK or RED hair they wore when they were younger, and giving up sun tanning. After a certain age (different for all) our skin pigment fades as our hair turns gray, and we need to adjust our hair to a lighter, less intense shade, and stay out of the sun, to avoid that leathery witchy look! After forty, check your mirror often. Mirrors don’t lie! Some women go all the way to blonde as they get older, to soften their maturing appearance. I'm also annoyed by women who wear their long hair down, on their shoulders, as they age, when it's gray. Grey adds 15 years! I think greying hair should be worn in an updo or cut (above the shoulders.) If you want to wear your long hair down, you should be young enough to have NO grey, OR it should be color-treated to eliminate the grey and avoid looking like a rock star wannabe who’s in denial!
—Guest ImaBeliever

63 yr.old great grandmother

whoever says that an older woman shouldn't wear long gray hair to her hips doesn't know what they are talking about. I get compliments on my hair every time I go our about how beautiful is is. I love my long hair and my dresses and skirts. I want to look like the woman God made me to look like
—Guest beautiful

There Is No Rule

I had a woman friend "helpfully" explain to me that my eye shadow was too bright, and that "some women" dressed like...(she lowered her voice,) prostitutes! I smiled, and said, "What a pity, I had been hoping to conceal that aspect of my personality a little longer..." When I went to Starbucks that morning, my little high school friend, (and a stylist,) exclaimed that my makeup rocked. I follow my inspiration. I plan on rocking it until I don't feel like it, which probably will be never. Life is too short to be constipated about self-expression.
—Guest Rocking 57 Years

comfort

I am 60yr. old and have over the last 30 years always received compliments on my wear. I love tailored clothes when at the office and flirty but modest wear when socializing. My motoo for what I chose is basically what I feel comfortable wearing. Some folks feel comfortable being the centre of attention so they dress outrageous, even though they may be aware that persons find the outfit inappropriate. I think therefore that whatever makes one comfortable,should be what you wear. However dressing where most of ones breast or private parts are obvious or actually exposed is definitely always inappropriate.
—Guest Ann

charzie

If you feel good in it ,wear it!! I dress to suit myself and what I feel looks best on me. If it offends someone, well it was my choice and my money, sorry. I'm 74 and I try to look my best!!!
—charlotteharris

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